Yes, this question is wild. Bluntly put, does the size of a vagina matter for men when it comes to enjoyable, sustainable sex?
Generally guys no matter their sexual orientation are on the pointy end of the genital size question and, being a hetero bloke, I gotta tell you, it makes you sweat. Well, it used to. Now I couldn’t care less. I guess it’s the benefit of getting older, saggier and more comfortable (read: less fucks to give in general).
But when considering this as a blog topic, I was kind of bamboozled as to whether this is a question that needs answering.
Interestingly, the first thing that came to mind was a bit of a Freakonomics approach. Flipping the sex script as it were. Is sex less enjoyable for the smaller sample of men with prodigiously large dicks who have intercourse with what we might call women with average vagina sizes?
Yes, that seems like an easier starting point.
Is sex less enjoyable for the smaller sample of men with prodigiously large dicks who have intercourse with what we might call women with average vagina sizes?
Case study: A mate of mine – let’s call him Johnson – was blessed with a magnanimous penis. I saw it once in a context that I won’t reveal and I can attest to its length and girth being fantastical to the point of disbelief. A fable. A myth. Wondrous to behold.
He was engaged to an awesome woman – let’s call her Josie – and they seemed super happy. I’m a fairly close friend to both so when their engagement was called off suddenly and removal trucks were booked it came as a huge surprise.
Having a coffee with Josie after the fact it was revealed that their break up was caused by that giant dick.
Johnson confirmed his gear had cost him his future wife. It actually broke him because he worshipped her and he was just that kind of guy – super loyal and absolutely taken. It was a really sad convo.
And yes, I’ve heard that before. The blessing can be a curse, particularly in terms of length. But Josie had a different take. Her problem, she said, was that her vagina – the width across – was just too small (we’ll get to the measurements later). It had hurt them to the point where they hadn’t actually had sex for a year.
I’d like to point out that this was a couple in their mid-20s – not that age determines your frequency appetite for sex or anything – but, you know, it was unexpected.
But – and I’m sure you’re already screaming it at the screen – that has to be an anomaly. Johnson is clearly an exception in a world of 5-inch rules.
For what it’s worth, Johnson’s now wife has attested to it being absolutely not an issue for them in their marriage. Their three kids would in fact prove they’ve had sex at least three times.
But that’s a n=1 study and by no means good research. So what does the data say?
Funnily enough – and I guess it’s a bit expected – not much research exists about vagina size and sexual pleasure for hetero men.
Of course what is known (no shit, mate) is that the vagina is an extremely elastic organ. According to Christine O’Connor, MD, director of adolescent gynecology and well women care at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, the vagina is a lot like our stomachs in that they have rugae, meaning they fold together to collapse when unused, then expand when necessary. Tampon, meet 12-pound baby and future tuba player Henry. An amazing organ.
But let’s get back to Josie’s issue with girth. The research that most medical professionals turn to is from the ‘60s. While vaginas are elastic, the change in the total population’s vaginal dimensions appears to be static.
A couple of researchers Masters and Johnson (lol) found in a study of 100 women that unstimulated vaginal lengths range from 2.75 inches to about 3.25 inches. Stimulated, that increases to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches. Also, as a control, the study was in women who had never been pregnant.
In a win for the average hetero man, the first one-third of the vagina is the most important for arrousal. Yay us. But that’s not the question at hand.
What about the genital hiatus? That’s the medical term for the size of the vaginal opening. Also an apt descriptor of my sex life during my early university years, until I joined a band. Would recommend.
Christopher Tarnay, MD, director of the division of female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery at the UCLA Medical Center, has reported that while data exists that would suggest a lot of women are self-conscious about their genital hiatus, any complaints about it in the absolute majority of women and hetero men come after child birth.
But, he told WebMD, in most cases that is more a psychological factor – “Just having a baby changes the sexual experience, so it may not have to do with the changes in the vaginal opening.”
What about the genital hiatus? That’s the medical term for the size of the vaginal opening. Also an apt descriptor of my sex life during my early university years
The data backs that up. Research in the area was beefed up in 1996 when doctors began using a measurement called the pelvic organ prolapse quantification system as a way of qualifying how well they repaired that area after women had given birth.
The trend? The vaginal opening changes only very slightly after childbirth, and that has mostly to do with injury or muscle weakness in the area, which can be reversed. In short, and if women are keen to be told by a man writing a fucking insane blog how to tighten their vagina after childbirth *dodges 37 knives hurled in my direction*, the data shows some simple exercises do the trick for most women. *Rips knife from groin, deservedly dies*
OK, so. Does the size of a vagina matter for men?
A few medical professionals say probably not, but they admit it’s not their focus in research.
I will repeat, the closely planned and executed research in this area is non-existent. Kind of like the wild brain-dead shit anti-vaxxers cling to like nanna’s pearls.
So, I asked a few heterosexual mates. N=5 in this situation. Hardly a good sample but it’s all I got.
One of the five said they had had a sexual experience where they felt the size of one of their partner’s vaginas (read: a larger genital hiatus) had hindered sexual pleasure. Anecdotally, he said: “Look, it was less enjoyable and it also felt less enjoyable for her. I felt like I was achieving pretty minimal pleasure and I know she certainly wasn’t achieving my desired response.” He also said he may just have been a smaller guy, to which he exclaimed, “I don’t give a fuck about that like I used to.”
Interesting. But also consider this. Three of the five said they had experienced sex with a partner where the vaginal opening had appeared larger during certain bonk sessions, but smaller during others. Elastic! Just like your tummy! However, they all said they didn’t consider it less or more pleasurable either way.
Again, hardly a strong sample, but anecdotally interesting all the same.
In conclusion, if we head back to the admittedly thin research, the best answer comes from Dr Tarnay.
“It probably doesn’t matter,” he says. “There is such a wide range of normal.”
Which is to say, normal doesn’t exist. Just the right fit for each of us. And that’s what we at The Sex Blog love to hear.
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Does vagina size matter for heterosexual blokes?
Yes, this question is wild. Bluntly put, does the size of a vagina matter for men when it comes to enjoyable, sustainable sex?
Generally guys no matter their sexual orientation are on the pointy end of the genital size question and, being a hetero bloke, I gotta tell you, it makes you sweat. Well, it used to. Now I couldn’t care less. I guess it’s the benefit of getting older, saggier and more comfortable (read: less fucks to give in general).
But when considering this as a blog topic, I was kind of bamboozled as to whether this is a question that needs answering.
Interestingly, the first thing that came to mind was a bit of a Freakonomics approach. Flipping the sex script as it were. Is sex less enjoyable for the smaller sample of men with prodigiously large dicks who have intercourse with what we might call women with average vagina sizes?
Yes, that seems like an easier starting point.
Case study: A mate of mine – let’s call him Johnson – was blessed with a magnanimous penis. I saw it once in a context that I won’t reveal and I can attest to its length and girth being fantastical to the point of disbelief. A fable. A myth. Wondrous to behold.
He was engaged to an awesome woman – let’s call her Josie – and they seemed super happy. I’m a fairly close friend to both so when their engagement was called off suddenly and removal trucks were booked it came as a huge surprise.
Having a coffee with Josie after the fact it was revealed that their break up was caused by that giant dick.
Johnson confirmed his gear had cost him his future wife. It actually broke him because he worshipped her and he was just that kind of guy – super loyal and absolutely taken. It was a really sad convo.
And yes, I’ve heard that before. The blessing can be a curse, particularly in terms of length. But Josie had a different take. Her problem, she said, was that her vagina – the width across – was just too small (we’ll get to the measurements later). It had hurt them to the point where they hadn’t actually had sex for a year.
I’d like to point out that this was a couple in their mid-20s – not that age determines your frequency appetite for sex or anything – but, you know, it was unexpected.
But – and I’m sure you’re already screaming it at the screen – that has to be an anomaly. Johnson is clearly an exception in a world of 5-inch rules.
For what it’s worth, Johnson’s now wife has attested to it being absolutely not an issue for them in their marriage. Their three kids would in fact prove they’ve had sex at least three times.
But that’s a n=1 study and by no means good research. So what does the data say?
Funnily enough – and I guess it’s a bit expected – not much research exists about vagina size and sexual pleasure for hetero men.
Of course what is known (no shit, mate) is that the vagina is an extremely elastic organ. According to Christine O’Connor, MD, director of adolescent gynecology and well women care at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, the vagina is a lot like our stomachs in that they have rugae, meaning they fold together to collapse when unused, then expand when necessary. Tampon, meet 12-pound baby and future tuba player Henry. An amazing organ.
But let’s get back to Josie’s issue with girth. The research that most medical professionals turn to is from the ‘60s. While vaginas are elastic, the change in the total population’s vaginal dimensions appears to be static.
A couple of researchers Masters and Johnson (lol) found in a study of 100 women that unstimulated vaginal lengths range from 2.75 inches to about 3.25 inches. Stimulated, that increases to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches. Also, as a control, the study was in women who had never been pregnant.
In a win for the average hetero man, the first one-third of the vagina is the most important for arrousal. Yay us. But that’s not the question at hand.
What about the genital hiatus? That’s the medical term for the size of the vaginal opening. Also an apt descriptor of my sex life during my early university years, until I joined a band. Would recommend.
Christopher Tarnay, MD, director of the division of female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery at the UCLA Medical Center, has reported that while data exists that would suggest a lot of women are self-conscious about their genital hiatus, any complaints about it in the absolute majority of women and hetero men come after child birth.
But, he told WebMD, in most cases that is more a psychological factor – “Just having a baby changes the sexual experience, so it may not have to do with the changes in the vaginal opening.”
The data backs that up. Research in the area was beefed up in 1996 when doctors began using a measurement called the pelvic organ prolapse quantification system as a way of qualifying how well they repaired that area after women had given birth.
The trend? The vaginal opening changes only very slightly after childbirth, and that has mostly to do with injury or muscle weakness in the area, which can be reversed. In short, and if women are keen to be told by a man writing a fucking insane blog how to tighten their vagina after childbirth *dodges 37 knives hurled in my direction*, the data shows some simple exercises do the trick for most women. *Rips knife from groin, deservedly dies*
OK, so. Does the size of a vagina matter for men?
A few medical professionals say probably not, but they admit it’s not their focus in research.
I will repeat, the closely planned and executed research in this area is non-existent. Kind of like the wild brain-dead shit anti-vaxxers cling to like nanna’s pearls.
So, I asked a few heterosexual mates. N=5 in this situation. Hardly a good sample but it’s all I got.
One of the five said they had had a sexual experience where they felt the size of one of their partner’s vaginas (read: a larger genital hiatus) had hindered sexual pleasure. Anecdotally, he said: “Look, it was less enjoyable and it also felt less enjoyable for her. I felt like I was achieving pretty minimal pleasure and I know she certainly wasn’t achieving my desired response.” He also said he may just have been a smaller guy, to which he exclaimed, “I don’t give a fuck about that like I used to.”
Interesting. But also consider this. Three of the five said they had experienced sex with a partner where the vaginal opening had appeared larger during certain bonk sessions, but smaller during others. Elastic! Just like your tummy! However, they all said they didn’t consider it less or more pleasurable either way.
Again, hardly a strong sample, but anecdotally interesting all the same.
In conclusion, if we head back to the admittedly thin research, the best answer comes from Dr Tarnay.
“It probably doesn’t matter,” he says. “There is such a wide range of normal.”
Which is to say, normal doesn’t exist. Just the right fit for each of us. And that’s what we at The Sex Blog love to hear.
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